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De-Schooling:
Getting into the Homeschool Groove

by Julie Shepherd knapp, copyright 2006


De-schooling, de-toxing, decompression time ... what's it all about?


Most homeschool books talk about children needing to "take a break"
after leaving school and before beginning to homeschool... is this really
necessary?  You'll probably read that children need to deschool for a
period of one month for every year that they were in school!   Won't the
children "fall behind"?  Will you be able to get them back into doing
school work, if they get used to doing nothing all day?  Does taking a
break mean watching TV or playing videos all day?  (...cuz my husband's
not going to like that! ;-)

The answers to this question depend on your particular situation.  You'll
need to consider what type of school experience (good or bad) your
child is leaving, what is your child's current attitude toward learning, and
what type of homeschooling approach will you be starting out with.  

Most homeschooling parents would agree that if your child has had a
really difficult time in school, and you are seeing signs of stress, anxiety,
or depression, then YES you need to let your child take a break.   Your
child needs some time to recover, both physically and emotionally... and
may possibly need some professional help to deal with what he or she
has been thru.  If your child is already stressed out by school, it won't
help matters to jump right in with school work on your first day home.

Does decompression time include TV and video games?  That is a
personal choice for each family.  Some parents feel that it is important to
allow the child some time for "zoning out" and doing nothing... others
never have allowed much "screen time" and never will.  What is
important, is that children be given the opportunity to relax, do pleasant
things, get some sleep, and find their way back to being happy.  

If your child hasn't had a rough time at school, is in good spirits, and is
actually looking forward to the educational freedom that homeschooling
can offer -- he or she may not deed any decompression time at all.  
Though I highly recommend taking at least one day off just to celebrate
your new journey -- go to the movies or the park, or to a museum or the
library -- and mark the beginning of your homeschool journey with a
joyful day of fun or exploration.

Will your child fall out of the habit of "doing school"?  Well, for many
families, that is the whole idea.  Homeschooling offers many options to
traditional school... some time to "break out of the mold" may be a good
thing for all of you.  If you plan to recreate traditional school in your
homeschool (an approach often called "
School-at-Home") then your
concerns are valid -- after taking some time off, your children will
probably need a few days to "get back in the swing".  You have no doubt
experienced this after summer or winter holidays, too.  They will re-adjust
after a break, just like they did in school.  

As for "falling behind"... there will be plenty of good days ahead to get in
your formal learning.  But, to succeed in the long run, your children
really need to have reclaimed their love of learning, and their joy in
discovery.  These are two qualities that make good students -- and give
adults the edge they will need to prosper in our ever-changing world.  As
the homeschooling parent you are the one in charge of your child's
education.  You need to decide, for your family, if it is worth trying to
recover and foster those qualities in your children.     


Here are some good articles on de-schooling that may help you decide:


Deschooling is for the whole family, Mom included! Take a look at this
thoughtful blog,
More About Deschooling, by Tammy

They're not really doing "nothing"... Older Children need some

"Decompression"
time, an article by Cafi Cohen

Making the Transition to Homeschooling by Serena Stout for
ClubMom

Finding My Deschooling Path by Stacey Clarke for Natural Life e-
magazine, "A 15-year-old from Victoria, BC describes her deschooling
experiences. She says, “This is for all my friends who still hunger to know
what it is I do all day and why.”

Deschooling for Parents by Sandra Dodd -- children aren't the only
ones who need to get away from the whole "school" thing ;-)

Certificate of Empowerment from Sandra Dodd



Related issues
Many school children show signs of institutionalization.

definitions of institutionalization --
Biology-Online definition,
Adoption.com

Harm in the School System by Shaun Kerry, M.D.

Institutionalization and Deschooling: The Death and the
Resurrection of the Self
by Kah Ying Choo

Deschooling Society by Ivan Illich -- complete text free online
"Become the change you want to see" ~~ Oprah Winfrey (1954 - )

Glorify who you are today, do not condemn who you were yesterday,      
       and dream of who you can be tomorrow. -- Neale Donald Walsch